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Every morning this past school year, my neighbor took his small son by the hand and walked the lad with his little backpack, down the street to his elementary school class. I often found that we left for school at the same time — the man with his boy and me, with my middle-school-aged son — getting into the car, while they walked down the street to their school. Watching them every morning made me smile. It was a sweet sight to see and a beautiful way to start the day. Such devotion to his task, this man showed! I admired him; but more than that, I discovered my neighbor had by the end of the year earned my respect. How? Why?

We live in a fatherless society more and more in my country. It is so sad, really. Where are my nation’s fathers? How do we begin to repair the damage of so many broken families? So many broken relationships? So many broken people? Men who are willing to love single mothers do a great service to their communities, to their families and to themselves. Why, though, would a man do this? I believe it is because this man possesses an inward quality called honor. Of course, sincere love for the woman from which those children came certainly helps! But essentially, we are all flawed and learning how to love one another is a fundamental lesson we are all here to learn. For the single man..it is the definition of a true life purpose and can yield something the inward soul desires at an even deeper level — respect. The man who chooses to love and raise children not his own also does a duty to the greater good. How is this so?

A father is a male who sacrifices for a child his time, his knowledge, and his words. Few people, it seems want this job now — and even fewer know how to do it. Time is the fundamental factor that trumps everything else. It must be understood that words of love do not compare to time in the economy of children…or relationships for that matter. Perhaps that is why the man who is wise enough to perform the duty of staying is worthy of such true respect. It is an act of humility and some might say true spiritual merit to give oneself in service to another — even for a little while. To give yourself to another for a lifetime is graduation to another level altogether. Understand that the woman who is raising the child is already operating on this advanced level and is therefore looking for a partner who can operate on the same level. Yet, so many people walk away from this opportunity to advance and heal in their relationships.

This is essentially a flaw in one’s character. Essentially, it a lack of integrity. Perhaps, it is our own inability to put away our own selfishness, that prevents us from fulfilling our duties to our children and to our marriages. It really isn’t convenient, is it? It is after all a McDonald’s fast food world…who wants to be inconvenienced enough to stop and build relationships with other people when there are so many potential people to choose from? Furthermore, babies do not even talk! Children cannot give back to you in the same way we give to them. THEY ARE NEEDY! Exactly! Which is why the man who took the time to walk his child to school every morning and the men who will take on these types of tasks are worthy of so much respect…and honor.

In a fatherless society, it is the male that is willing to give of himself to children not necessarily his own that builds the trusting environment necessary to grow the new family. The solitary male, who often feels he has had no purpose when he is just working for himself, discovers his presence adds stability and strength to the single mom unit that is so prevalent in American culture. This creates a new grafted-in family where healing and growth can replace the wounds of broken-ness that each person involved carries within.

There are children that are aloof and have difficulty making friends. Their self- esteem is low and they usually find it hard to deal with different personalities around them. In schools, academics are the main concern for students and not their social skills. Thus, parents must help their children to build up their social skills that would help them gain friends that are significant to their sense of belonging, as well as their self -esteem.

One way to build up your child’s social skills is encouraging them to join in extra-curricular activities. Allow them to participate in school, family, or community activities. This would help them discover their inner strength, potential talents and likes. This is also a way for them to meet new people and gain friends.

Support from family members would help them a lot to continue and pursue what they want to do. Even hesitant or shy children can learn to overcome it. You can build them up even beyond the school. They can interact with other people such as in church, or even in your own community.Support from family members would help them a lot to continue and pursue what they want to do. Even hesitant or shy children can learn to overcome it. You can build them up even beyond the school. They can interact with other people such as in church, or even in your own community.

To some children, making friends may not be easy for them, but it can be surely learned and developed step by step. There are children with disabilities that may feel intimidated from other normal children, and may somehow feel uncomfortable making friends. You can help your child work on their social skills by planning to start in small goals. A smile is a great start in making friends. Have an open communication about what happened on the activities he or she got engaged. This may encourage them to be more active in the activities they are involved in.

Children love to play. You can build up their social skills through playing with them. You can act out as a newly met friend. Teach them a friendly greeting or how to ask if a friend wants to play with him or her.

A good character is best learned at home. Kind words must be instilled to your child’s vocabulary especially when asking questions or talking to other people. Give them also tips on how to choose right friends to develop a good relationship as well as right character.

Usually, friends of the same level of age can provide significant social and emotional support to your child. Give your child time to explore new friends in the neighborhood. Let them play after they have done their homework. You may also know their friends by serving some snacks for them. Your children will build camaraderie with their friends with you supervising them as well.

You can also introduce them to sports or activities like dancing, singing, etc within home premises. This way, they will be introduced with these activities and they will carry it out as soon as they are exposed to school, church or community. They will not feel left behind from their friends or classmates and their confidence will boost up. They will enjoy their interaction with others knowing that they know what they are about to do.

Introduction.

Is your marriage in shamble? Are you thinking of divorce? Are challenges in marriage pushing you the wall? Is second wife the next option? Do you feel your husband is not the right man? If you are a victim of any of these questions, this article is for you.

Marriage from Biblical perspective is a union of celebration and happiness, a place of humor and not humiliation. Making your marriage a pyramid of success will unravel the mysteries behind every successful marriage. The only way this article will be useful to you is to apply all the principles that will be discuss as we progress. Are you single? This article will make you develop a positive mindset in taking up marriage resposiblities.Are you into courtship? This write up will be a pathway to having a successful marriage. My advice is that you keep to the instructions.

What is Marriage?

Marriage is an INSTITUTION establish by GOD that brings a man and woman to have a LEGAL UNION before some witnesses and before the presence of God. In Gen 2:24, it says “Therefore shall a man live his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and both shall be one” We can see that marriage in not a child’s affairs. To have a comprehensive understanding of what marriage is all about, some basic terms will be explain in details.

Institution.

Institution as defined by Oxford dictionary is a place of learning. A place designed to impact positive values to individuals. For instance we have the Formal and Informal Institutions. Institution from its definition has no “time limit or time frame”. It’s an unending process. It starts from birth and ends at death. It does not offer its curricular activities or programmes on a platter of Gold. I believe you paid a price to achieve what you are today. I remembered as child, my parents disciplined me to go to school, then I saw them as being “wicked and uncaring” but thank God for such “wicked and uncaring” attitude. Because this molded me to be a better person. No institution was design to make someone a reproach to his society, but to develop someone into a responsible and reliable citizen. Institution in its natural sense is a place of development of the mind.

Marriage as an institution is a place of learning, a place of exercise of the intellectual and God-given abilities, a place of training of the mind, body, soul and spirit. In the institutional sector, the Teacher impacts knowledge, in marriage life challenges or affairs bring out the best. No experience you acquire in marriage that is a waste, it only becomes a waste when you do not learn from it. That your wife called you an irresponsible man means you should be responsible. Marriage as an institution only requires knowledge, understanding, wisdom, fear of God and intelligence to solve problems. Marriage as an institution requires two experts-husband and wife with out external factor to solve problems, a third party might be harmful.

God.

From the definition of marriage, we said it is a legal union before the presence of God and…….The Irony of this is that most couples have abandon God in their marriage. They believe they can do with out him. The truth is that you can never do anything with out God. He is the beginning and the end, the Alpha and the Omega, the first and the last, the omniscience, omnipresence and omnipotent God. There is nothing hidden before his sight. God is the ultimate source of our success. Marriage with out God is like a ship with out a rudder or an aircraft with out a compass and pilot. The marriage vows you took before the presence of the church was sealed by God. God is the originator of marriage right from the creation of the world. He did this when he joined Adam and Eve together. Also the first ever miracle that Jesus Christ performed where he turned water into wine was in wedding feast in Galilee. This is a clear indication that God has hand in every marriage.

Since God is the one that established marriage, how do we get him involved in having a blissful married life? Get God involved by recognizing and acknowledging him as your source, get in him involved by your giving-sow seed of faith, then ask for miracle in your marriage. In crisis seek his face through prayer and praises not complain. Complaining can only worsen a situation. We knew what happened when Paul and Silas praised God. Great things happen when we take advantage of praise. You can never do it alone. God has a purpose of giving Adam a HELPMEET. Gods’ blessings do notaddsorrow but giveth riches. A house that is not built by God will definitely collapse. Except the Lord builds a city, in vain the builders build.

Legal Union.

This means a lawful (legitimate and acceptable) union between husband and wife. Marriage is not living apart but a conjugal relationship. A lot is accomplished when two people pursue a course. The Bible said “if two of you shall agree on a particular thing, it shall be done to you”. The united will stand the divided will fall. The devil can easily destroy a home when he finds out there is no unity. As a husband please don’t shy away from your responsibilities likewise a woman. With God ALL things are possible, recognize your wife’s contributions and see her as unto the weaker vessel not the weaker vessel-1 Peter 3:7. Shifting you responsibilities on her might make her to act negatively. Take advantage of your oneness. The Biblical synergy is 1 + 1= 1, this is the only mathematical law that no mathematician can proof using any mathematical theories. Though some might not see it as synergy but to me it is a synergy that negates the laws of other synergies. In the Biblical context, when two different people come together there is an added value. Let nothing separate you from your wife or husband. The Bible says “what God has joined together let no man put asunder”

Why most Marriages Fail?

In every ten marriages conducted, eight of the marriages ends in divorce.Our registry courts are receiving thousands of application filing for divorce. Several homes have been torn apart because of failed marriages. Children have been left to roam about the street seeking for shelter, food, clothing. Government in their own capacity could not do anything. Churches through the Gospel are proffering solution which solely depends on the couples to accept. The rates of single parents are at increase. One of the CNN reports said a couple married and seeks for divorce after 24 hours of their marriage. That’s very incredible. Gay marriages are at increase-marriage of the same sex. Husband and wife could no longer hold there peace and things have fallen apart. What is the cause(s) of this collapse in most marriages? The facts below throw more light on why majority of the marriages fail.

Bad Foundation.

The Bible rightly put it “A house that is built on a sandy soil will collapse”

Who is the foundation of your marriage? Where is your marriage built upon? Who do you look unto in your marriage? The foundation of your marriage matters a lot. Ask me what has been sustaining my marriage, I will tell you is God. God is the foundation of my marriage. I look unto him whether in need or with out need. I commit my marriage in his hands everyday. I trust everything I have on him. God does not fail those that trusted him. One thing I have learnt and realized in this life is that, MAN can easily fail you. Most marriages depend on MAN to solve there problems. Man in its natural sense is a problem to himself. No wonder the Bible said “the heart of men are desperately wicked and evil” Man is a corruptible seed. MAN from the creation has failed himself and failed God. Thank God that he is faithful even when we are unfaithful. Let the foundation of your marriage be rooted in God. Trust him for everything. The only formula that has ever worked in marriage is trusting in God formula. God purpose of marriage is for a peaceful co existence and procreation. Empty your marriage to him and he will fill it.

Lack of Wisdom and Understanding.

Understanding in this parlance means ability to know one another lifestyles, his “dos and dons”. Understanding is a critical issue in marriage. Husband and wife should learn to study and understand one another. The period of your courtship should be a period of studying each other personality not a period of flippancy. I took advantage of my courtship and with God on my side, my marriage is a blessing. It does not take you to be educated to understand one another. If you are educated and your husband is an illiterate, don’t intimidate him or take advantage of his illiteracy, but talk and reason with him in the language he will understand and vice versa.

Marriage needs wisdom and understanding, and it’s the responsibilities of both. If you have misunderstanding with your wife, simply apply wisdom and understanding to resolve it. The Bible says “wisdom is the principal thing, get wisdom in all thy getting, get understanding” Couples that have understanding can easily triumph over any challenges or problems. Stop dreaming of your marriage being like mine or Mr B’s, work on your marriage. You can bring the best out of your marriage. All things are possible to him that believe

Lack of Trust.

Marriage can easily end in divorce if both couples lack trust. Though man is not God that you can absolutely trust, but since your union is of God there should be a trust between the two of you. Don’t always see your wife or husband as a suspect. Look! Be free with each other, be open to each other. Secrecy in marriage can disrupt and destroy a marriage. One good thing about my wife and I is that we don’t have a secret. Although some couples might not find it funny especially when it comes to finance. My wife knows my financial position and this has really help our marriage. The Bible says “and both of you shall be one”. Being one is not in the area of procreation but in all aspect of life. When both of you begin to be secretive, it leads to lack of trust which then leads to suspicion and finally matrimonial conflict.

Lack of Love.

The perspective you see or define love will go along way affecting your marriage. Love as I know is sacrifice (John 3:16), its also giving the best you have irrespective of how valuable it is to you. Love is on the giving side than on the receiving side. Love does not dwell on the past but dwells on the present and think about the future. It does not count on wrong doing but covers multitude of sins. Love is not really on physical things but on the internal or inside. For details about love, you can read 1 Corinthians 13.

The question is do you really love your husband or wife? Do you marry him because of his financial status? What attracts you to him or her-the body build, his dressing pattern, the way he talks, his eye, his nose? What happen if those qualities are no longer present in him? Love reveals your inner worth. Why most marriages fail is, most couples pursue shadows to realities. Never you love a man because of his financial or material worth, but love him because of what he is and what he’s going to be and the fear of God in him. Wealth is good in marriage but should not be the primary thing to consider. But it’s quite unfortunate that our young ladies pursue wealth in place of happiness.

Wealth can not give you happiness; it’s only a tool to happiness but not a source of happiness. If your husband is poor, but focus, God fearing and resourceful and you really love him, with out hesitation you can go ahead and marry him believing that your source is not from man but from God. My wife met me at my zero point but today we are happily married. God is love. David said ‘since he was young and now he is old, he has never seen the righteous forsaken or his seed beg bread”. Wife should genuinely love her husband likewise the husband and believe God for sustenance. That does not mean you should be lazy. Proverb said “little slumber, little folding of hands, poverty creeps in” A man needs to be up and doing. A man should be able to provide for his family. Your wife is a help-meet don’t live your responsibilities on her. Most men have become so impotent in taking up their responsibilities and thereby making the wife a bread winner of the house. No woman feels happy being the bread winner of the family; it will only take the grace of God for any woman to respect her husband when the family responsibilities are on her. Husbands should learn to be HUSBANDS!!.

Third Party Interference.

This is a silent “killer” in most marriages. The extent you allow third party in your matrimonial home will determine the extent your marriage will go. Learn to settle any dispute you have within yourselves. Challenges come to strengthen your marriage not to invite a third party. Ninety Nine percent of third parties are home destroyer. If you want to ease off your self incase of any tension or dispute, your pastor should be in a better position to handle it or a marriage counsellor. Don’t expose your marriage to third party. How sure are you that the person you are inviting does not have problems in his home? Marriage is an institution of learning. It is an unending learning process. Who told you that you will not have challenges in your marriage? Remember marriage is the union of two different personalities from different backgrounds. This is the reason why you should tolerate each other. One basic fact you should know is that there are those outside that don’t want your marriage to succeed. These are the people the bible called “wolves in sheep clothing”. Outwardly these people smile and rejoice with you, inwardly they are deadly vampires. We know that problem shared is half solved, but be wise to know who you share problems with. If you have challenges in your marriage, seek the counsel of God. Remember the words of Joshua to the Israelites “this book of law shall not depart from thy mouth, meditate on it day and night and thy WAYS will be prosperous and successful” Most couples don’t have Bible in their home. What is your manual of life? If you have the word of God with you, third party will not be an option in face of challenges.

Avoid Past Life Experience.

The Bible says “if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature, old things have passed away and all things have become new”-2Corinthians 5:17. Look, the life you lived before you got married should not count in your matrimonial home. Most couples are found of comparing their wife or husband to their former “lover”. There are things that suppose not to be mention in your home. If you think that your former “lover” is better of than your wife, I think you have made a mistake by marrying her and vice versa. Your coming together as a husband and wife means a new life has began.Invariably “old things” has passed away. Don’t even keep it in your archives, but permanently delete it. How do you feel if your wife should tell you that her former “lover” is more romantic and caring than you? I believe you really feel bad. When you bring in past life experiences into your home, be sure your marriage is heading to the rock.

The great leaps in our culture has distanced itself from the technology arena, we are the ancient treasures of mankind. Hot covers meaningful glances, shared songs and stories, handwritten love letters and poems, was replaced – Some say it developed – that the era of modernization. Activities, demonstration and a reminder that once humanity is replaced by a new means of communication: fax, e-mail, cell phone, pager and computer-generated greetings. A warm human touch has been replaced by a cold, lifeless in the presence of electronic media. Many traits that define our humanity remain what I have been led to believe is faster, better, more modern approach to life. In the absence of human interaction, face to face contact, we will lose what makes us essentially human, and you’ll find yourself looking for something to fill this gap in our souls.

. Birthday truly express their gratitude to God for the opportunity to not sadhana (spiritual practice) last year, and pray for mercy, for next year’s birthday is the day to assess the mental development of the soul “of the” wild wild Marathi word meaning “sun of growth. ” visible growth in spiritual development. The soul is to progress spiritually cleanse the subtle body and the intake of the three components, also known as “trigunas”) is required in proportion to the deity. The development of the spiritual soul is born from it. Even if the person is unable to perform the actual practice of various spiritual rituals, spiritual sattva component of it, in order to increase the opening of spiritual development. Birthday is on analyzing the impact of spiritual rituals subtle body. A spiritual point of view, the birthday is a day to assess the intellectual development and spiritual development, if any, then it shows real growth .- “God.

Your birthday means that you are born again in the new entity the right reasons – can not therefore be a party, but I have to do:

* He can not truly love karma and forgive all the things that the previous incarnations
* The intention to love and help others to learn to love God and their return
* Plans to correct mistakes or omissions made by you or others in the previous time
* Plans for support in any way God’s divine plan of God that the whole family
* His lack of knowledge leads to unresolved emotional or unfinished, in previous incarnations
* His lack of knowledge of God leads to fear of God
* The lack of awareness of the spiritual life of God leads to mis-led forces vector

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The education of teenagers in High School is crucial, and it demands serious consideration. It is so because a teacher has power to influence, to shape, and to sculpt our teenagers’ education as well as to develop their talents. Our youngsters will likely carry all of it throughout their lives. Although teachers have such wonderful power, its success is heavily dependant on teachers mastering How To Teach. Parents, however, do not know if teachers are or are not demanded to inescapably demonstrate How To Teach.

Bring up the chair, and you be the judge.

Assuming a kid developed normally ~and his caring parents knowingly developed his intellect since that wonderful day when he was born~ the mastermind behind nature is the one who decided that it is during teen-years when his brain is wide-open to assimilate knowledge, it will expand his aptitudes, and it will germinate talents more than at any other age. As a direct result of these unchangeable facts, parents may rightfully construe that when something is not going well in High School may NOT be because nature made a mistake with their youngster’s brain.

* Will it be possible that a teenager failing in High School is because nature made a mistake with his brain, prevented it from developing fully, and consequently, does not have enough intelligence ?

* Will it be possible that a teenager failing in High School is because he confronts teachers failing at knowlegeably and masterfully execute the Teaching-Learning Process, and those teachers further deny all responsibilities for the teenager’s failure ?

As an editor, publisher, and parent, I felt compelled to elaborate on teenagers education in the hope that you ~as a parent I presume~ may have wanted to read questions on a situation with powers to harm our teenagers’ education during the most formative stages of their lives.

We parents have the inescapable obligation to become conscious that our teenagers may not be in a favorable position confronting on their own what they likely perceive as an intimidating establishment of commanding adults likely to stubbornly deny failure to masterfully and proficiently do their job. Those educators are prone to flip the pancake over ~so to speak~ claiming that our teenagers are the ones on the wrong side of matters.

In all fairness, we parents should know how well we did our job during the earlier stages of our kids’ lives promoting his intellect AND developing his sense of responsibility. Should we have done right our job, then, we can rightfully demand High School teachers to masterfully and proficiently do their job. The rightful demand is because teachers are educating OUR teenagers during the most formative chapters of their lives, and those teachers must be forced ~if necessary~ to have an inexcapable obligation to do their job fully and proficiently.

We parents are our youngsters’ most powerful asset. We must not fail doing a valid and praiseworthy job helping them to succeed in life. Should we fail, we taint our teenagers education by ignoring and disregarding that they must be educated by folks who must inescapably master How To Teach; and if we failed doing our job, we sent them a damaging and highly destructive message:

“It is okay if you fail doing your job. We failed doing ours.”

The education of teenagers in High School is crucial, and it demands serious consideration. It is so because a teacher has power to influence, to shape, and to sculpt our teenagers education and develop their talents. Our youngsters will likely carry all of it throughout their lives. Although teachers have such wonderful power, its success is heavily dependant on teachers mastering How To Teach. Parents, however, do not know if teachers are or are not demanded to inescapably demonstrate How To Teach.

Bring up the chair, and you be the judge.

Assuming a kid developed normally ~and his caring parents knowingly developed his intellect since that wonderful day when he was born~ nature’s mastermind decided that it is during teen-years when his brain will wide-openly acquire knowledge, it will expand his aptitudes, and it will germinate his nature-given talents more than at any other age. As a direct result, parents may rightfully construe that something not going well in High School may NOT be because nature made a mistake with their youngster’s brain.

* Will it be possible that a teenager failing in High School is because nature made a mistake with his brain which is malfunctioning and not allowing enough intelligence ?

* Will it be possible that a teenager failing in High School is because he confronts teachers failing at masterfully executing the Teaching-Learning Process ?

As an editor, publisher, and parent, I felt compelled to elaborate on teenagers education in the hope that you ~as a parent I presume~ may have wanted to read questions on a situation with powers to harm our teenagers education during the most formative stages of their lives.

We parents have the inescapable obligation to become conscious that our teenagers may not be in a favorable position confronting on their own what they likely perceive as an intimidating establishment of commanding adults likely to stubbornly deny failure to masterfully and proficiently do their job. Those educators are prone to flip the pancake over ~so to speak~ claiming that our teenagers are the ones on the wrong side of matters.

In all fairness, we parents should know how well we did our job during the earlier stages of our kids’ lives promoting intellect AND developing a sense of responsibility. Should we have done well what is expected of us, we have another inexcapable obligation, and that is to demand High School teachers to masterfully and proficiently do their job. The demand is because teachers are in charge of educating OUR teenagers during the most critical and formative chapters of their lives.

We parents are our youngsters’ most powerful asset. We must not fail doing a valid and praiseworthy job helping them to succeed in life. Should we fail, we taint our teenagers education by ignoring and disregarding how expertly they are being educated by folks who must inescapably master How To Teach; and such smear in our parenthood carries a damaging and destructive message:

“It is okay if you fail doing your job. Every day, we fail doing ours.”

Birthdays come once in a year. They are rare opportunities we get to remind our loved ones, how much we care about them. Your bundle of happiness is turning a year older this year. Make it a day that he will always remember and brag about to his friends, even after years when he grows up. In this article we will discuss ways how you can make your son’s birthday special.

Birthday are incomplete without gifts. You can prepare a list of different things that your son would want for his birthday. As a parent you must be already having an idea. He must have already thrown hints at you. However, if you are still confused, you can always take help from various websites that give out different gift ideas for boys depending on their age. If your son is fond of video games, a Playstation would be a perfect gift for him. Since it is his birthday, show him how happy you are by throwing a birthday bash for him. Don’t forget to call all his friends and the people he is fond of. If you want to make it more special, have it as a surprise. He will be so glad to have all his favorite persons around him on his special day. If your son is old enough and he likes traveling, you can send him and a couple of his friends on a mini-vacation to some nearby place. If possible you can even arrange for a entire family vacation to celebrate your son’s birthday. Choose a place where your son, always wanted to go. It will be quite a change for him to celebrate his birthday away from his usual surroundings. The best part of this idea is that it will be memorable to him. And for years he will go about telling his friends, that he had visited this particular place on his birthday.

These are a couple of ways how to make your son’s birthday special. The truth is, it is not what all you do that will make his day really special, it is the amount of love you put in that matters.